Actively listen and capture one of the most important aspects of effective facilitation. As an active listener, you feedback (emphasize, restate) what the speaker has offered to the group, and more importantly, why. Be sure to reflect on the rationale, the ‘because’ behind the speaker’s main point. To actively listen serves several purposes:
- Often, the participant is formulating thoughts on the spot and the playback helps one to further develop the thought process. The act of communication affects the content being communicated and shared.
- Participants experience being heard—listened to.
- Separate the arguments and opinions from the people or the contributing participant so that everyone can join in.
- To reflect effectively, all need to understand the essence of the reason(s) supporting each participant’s message.
- You express an attitude of openness and listening.
“Talking is what I do, but listening is my job.”
— Ryan Seacrest
People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. Active listening requires four discrete steps.
- CONTACT—connect with the participant who is contributing; eye contact, open posture, and nonverbal responses.
- ABSORB—take in all aspects of the spoken message, implicit and explicit and nonverbal clues. Do not judge or evaluate.
- REFLECTIVE FEEDBACK—mirror, reflect, or feedback what you have heard and why the contributor claims to be valid.
- CONFIRM—receive confirmation from the speaker that you heard the participant’s message accurately. If not, start the method over again at the beginning by having the speaker restate their view.
Feeding Back“To listen with understanding means seeing the expressed idea and attitude from the other person’s point of view, sensing how it feels to the person . . . This may sound absurdly simple, but it is not.”
—Dr Carl R Rogers
Providing feedback or reflection captures the single most important part of active listening. Reflection can be either oral or visual. Reflection distinguishes active from passive listening, where people conversationally move from one statement to the next without verifying that content has been understood.
While verbatim are frequently preferred, optionally provide feedback and confirm content using one of these three techniques.
- Synthesize—shape fragments into a whole, work through the stream of consciousness found in group discussions.
- Summarize—much communication occurs without foresight. Often more words are used than necessary. When you summarize, boil it down to its essence or core message, ideally to the point of isolating the key verb and noun components first. Participants more frequently argue about adjectives and adverbs.
- Paraphrase—saying, repeating what the participant(s) said using somewhat different words while preserving the original meaning or intention.
When providing reflective feedback, depersonalize the content with your rhetoric. Do NOT say ‘You said . . . ‘ Rather, convert their statements with integrative rhetoric such as, “We heard . . .”
Strive for completeness when providing reflection. Try to avoid the general ‘Does everyone agree with THAT?’ by replacing content for the impersonal pronoun “that”. For example, ‘Does everyone agree that torture can be consciously objectionable?’ works better because participants now better understand the exact reflection.
Why It Works
Active listening is a powerful tool because it builds relationships between participants. Exercising active listening sets an example for all participants and lays the foundation for clarity and understanding.
Through a confirmation process we are permitted a clearer and potentially deeper understanding about the assumptions that different perspectives embrace in their decision-making. In other words, it makes it easier to see the world through others’ eyes.
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